Sensuality is in the mind first and in the body second.
Therefore, to have a sensual experience we need to engage the mind.
and to experience a loving relationship, we need to engage the mind of love.
This happens within- IT is an inner movement, and inner shift in perspective.
My focus is to help in the short term rather than to be an ongoing support. In my experience, each of us individually knows what we want and need, and the role of a coach is to help us find our own inner resources and to connect with our own guidance so we can make our own way forward. I believe we all have inner spiritual power which is far more instructive and helpful than outer influence. I see my role as giving insight and perspective according to what I have learned from sensual healing and my own spiritual journey.
Healing methods we will work with are-
Ho’opono’pono, a Hawaiian forgiveness technique.
Family Constellation, which is a way to engage and restructure the energetic bonds and connections between the self and other. The other in this context could also refer to places, environments, groups of people, ideas about the self, substances we use to disassociate, or anything else with which we have a relationship.
Tarot readings are a great way to look at the hidden or underlying aspects of the dynamics at play within yourself or between you and another person or anything you are in relationship with.
Sessions are $75/hour, or $130 for 90 minutes. We can either meet in person at a public place, ie, a coffee shop or a park on a nice day in Vancouver, or online.
What a session with me looks like-
Problem solving For specific aspects of intimacy
Sensual expression is a natural aspect of human nature, but sometimes we close this part of ourself off due to trauma or other life events. Over the years in my massage practice I had the opportunity to help people open up to aspects of themselves they had buried for different reasons.
In these sessions we will re-establish trust for yourself, and then look at ways you can heal your relationship to your own sensual nature.
intimacy Coaching for Women
In my time giving sensual massage, I worked mainly with men. From this I learned a lot about the emotional world of men and masculine minded individuals. While men and masculine energy dominant people are all different, in some ways, they are similar. Masculine energy attenuates to the relationship dynamics in terms of value first, and then these individuals allow themselves to open up emotionally. If a masculine person doesn’t perceive the relationship to have value, or for the person he/she/they have in mind to have value that they are able to connect and engage with, they won’t give himself emotionally to the relationship. If they do engage with the relationship at all, it will be only physically and for a relatively short period of time.
Which means that to be in a long term committed relationship with a man or masculine focused person, we need to know and honour our own value. When we acknowledge what we have of value to offer, when we honour our own personal gifts and abilities, this is when we resonate with the inner masculine aspect of ourself so a man or masculine focused person can get a read on our inner value and know how to structure his own sense of value around this.
In these sessions, we will use the same healing methods as those outlined in Problem Solving for Specific Aspects of Intimacy, as well as meditation to engage the mind of love.
Intimacy Coaching for Couples
In these sessions, I will first meet with each person individually, and then the both of you together. These sessions are designed for people who are experiencing minor difficulties around communication of sensual needs rather than couples with serious troubles due to acrimonious feelings.
I am there to help you get the ball rolling in regard to communicating and receiving sensual needs, and to give you tools and guidance to discover your own individual ways of uncovering these aspects of yourself and your partner.
Often when we are in a relationship for some time, we can develop expectations of our partners that are codependent or border on codependency. The antidote to these patterns are to engage the mind of love more purely. When we begin to take accountability for our own self, and our own needs, we can begin to notice the love we genuinely feel for our partners. This simple shift in perspective allows everything to change.